I generally dont like doing these things...but as Tigeress knows where I work and Confessions has promised to nurse me, I feel like I have no choice *sigh*
So, in keeping with my general theme, i'm going to try and think of 10 honest things about my bachelorhood. Enjoy.
- I was very shy for all of my teenage years. Definitely not the Scribbles you know now. In high school, I had a crush on a girl for 3 years and can honestly count on one (or maybe both) hand(s) how many words I said to her in that time.
- My first real kiss didn't happen till I was 19 yrs old. I remember watching Never Been Kissed at 18 and thinking "That's me!".
- A common misconception about me is that I'm addicted to sex. I'm not. I just really, really like it. I could give it up anytime if I want to.
- I was celibate (not a virgin) for 6 years(ages 12-18), proving my previous point.
- Most of the "relationships" I've been in have been sexless, I've dated a virgin, a girl who took a vow of celibacy right before we got together, etc. I've mostly had sex buddies
- I dont believe in igniting "old flames". It ended for a reason. That whole "if you love something let it go..."...sorry luv, but I aint coming back. Except for sex. But only sex. And only if the sex was good.
- Everybody I know is 100% convinced that I will one day get married. I'm not. And I'm ok with it.
- However, just in case I do, I work everyday to become a better man. The kind of man my future wife deserves. I know what my shortcomings are and everyday is an opportunity to improve every area of my life.
- I REFUSE to settle. The woman I marry will be spiritually, sexually, intellectually, physically and emotionally astute. Not perfect, but perfect for me. If I dont find her, I dont marry. Capisce!
- Statistically, based on my dating history, there is less than a 40% chance that I will end up with a Nigerian woman. Like I said, I love ALL women, but as I want my children to speak 3 or more languages, there is a likelihood I will end up with a non-Nigerian woman
- I have no problem with not having children of my own. I'm open to adoption. My family/parents might have a problem with it. But that's their problem. I dont understand men who allow a wife to be driven out because she hasn't borne him any children.
So now I'm supposed to tag 7 people, so,
Lady Koko,this might take your mind off things a bit. TDVA, you better come and post something..you can start here, Fine Boy Agbero, this is a list I want to see; Smaragd..because you are my padi, BSNC, Bibi and last but by no means leastblogoratti....phew! it was a battle trying to find people who havent already done this. Now get to work!
50 comments:
i am soooo first
am i really first?
Dang!!!
you shy i would never have guessed."The woman I marry will be sexually, intellectually, physically and emotionally astute. Not perfect, but perfect for me".. i hope you ll find her that is if you haven't already. i guess i was tagged. (sighs)
Scribbles! Scribbles!! Scriblles!!! How many times did i call ur name?
Have i not told u about lettiing nobody post b4 me?!
BSNC...U know i got nothing but love 4 u abi. :)
I really feel u on that "refusing 2 settle" part. In as much as I wanna get married and have kids- the whole nine yards...I aint gonna do sh!t if i dont have d right person in my life.
Its too important to mess it up!
took me a while to comment...seeing my name up there was just...shocking!!!
lol confession of a london gal sory i was first. next i ll wait for you, but try to come early or i ll take your spot again.. yea i know, right bac at yay :)
*whispering to self* '60% chance???'...LOL...I so agree wiv Confessions and you of course about settling..hello marriage to me is a sacred sanctity for LIFE and so why SETTLE?I don't settle on the shoes I buy so why on this major part of me life???
Scribbles, i'm gutted- u shld have waited till i got to work before posting naow. lol!! Thot we had some kinda agreement going on here. Anyway i'm still home o and it's 7:30am. anyway, will give u a shout when i eventually get it.
BSNC
congrats! yes I was very shy...i hope i find her too. thanks
Confessions
like I said, if you want a heads up, hit up my inbox
and yes, I will not be getting a divorce...so we have make sure its right in the first place
i forgot to mention "spiritually"
TDVA
we're waiting...*taps fingers on table*
Shona
Statistically, there's a 20% chance of a Zim girl...that's a generous percentage to be honest, considering the many other heritages I have my eye on...and you're right about Confessions' template...some thing needs be done!
Tigeress
my bad. I'll keep that in mind for next time...but that means sitting here twiddling my thumbs for 5 hours....i dont know if I can do that! Holla when you get in
20%...its ok dude, not one to compete so m out of that race!!
For real? You guys couldnt read my blog? Ok me thinks its d crappy computer u lot use at work. hehehehe!
Up on all Scribbles, U still managed to be 2nd o! :) Whats d problem wen u go round?
Hmm..and I just keep getting shocked..
Nice knowing u a lil better, SMFizzle!
:D
Shona
lol...it's not a competition...it's just a statistic
Buttercup
I'm full of surprises...got a few more up my sleeve...they call me multi-dimensional
Confessions
i dont know what happens with Shona, but for me the templat shows up but then I have to scroll down for the actual post...and it takes a full minute to load up
p.s. *cough, cough* nuuuurrssee!
Lol!
*Enter Nurse Confessions*...
u cant call 12 to 18 celibacy! ur hormones werent raging yet!
I think one should take sex with serious partner seriously. so i agree with no sex with rel partner until u r ready...
Sex buddies are just fine for those! Sex is good for the body and mind...bt too much aint good. None is better. u think beta if u aint used to it and all scratching like an addict!
Amen to no.9 and no.11. I like :)
i like ur determination..... never settle for less...... so celibacy btw 12-18, r sure it wasnt cuz u were not getting some?
Dude.. If you really really like it.. You're addicted.. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that..
O..k.. maybe there is..
Besides ages 12-18 can't count for nothing.. anything beyond 18 is what we're talking about.. or at least 16..
LOL @ celibacy vow right before dating..
Some vows are always meant for the thrash can..
Confessions
Erm...you'll have to go back and change..skirt's too long, too little cleavage...i said naughty! lol
J...T
actually, 15-18 is when hormones rage the loudest..so there! and i'm not addicted!!
Tigeress
Thanks...two things I believe strongly in.
Funms
whether na decision abi na condition..all na celibacy..free me joh! lol
Roc
ditto Toluwa!
new post on my other blog by the way...enjoy
hahahhahahaa...a virgin from 12-18?
oh please....
@BSNC...continue rubbing it in dat ur first o...infact watch ur bak!lol
(Sigh)
*Exit Nurse Confessions*
SMF you need to teach me that macarena dance...
@gee what do you know about that lol
what blog are you talking about. you have three of them.
BSNC
click the link...as for the macarena...we can arrange something :)
Gee
not a virgin...celibate..get it right lol
Confessions
you know the rules..lol..but seriously *cough* hurry...i need a good dose of "sexy"
You have an interesting take on your life. Read your blog a little. In a word- cool. One other thing I must comment on is your 40% chance...Concerning the langage thing, there are a lot of nigerian women who speak other languages besides the local dialects. My sister and I are very Nigerian, but speak and read 2 other non-Nigerian, non-African languages fluently (we lived in Europe during our formative years). Besides that I have friends who though they spoke only Nigerian languages into their early 20s have taken up and now speak fluently other languages. What I'm trying to say is don't discount Nigerian women in general we have a lot of depth. But hey, you have your personal preferences I suppose.
Bond Girl
Hi! and welcome to my blog. Thanks for stopping by.
I'm not discounting Nigerian women. Not at all. I just said statistically, there was a 40% chance. I love Nigerian women and I'm aware that many of them speak other languages fluently.
I was merely pointing out that I am open to other cultures. No woman has less of a chance of being with me based on her heritage. I am not biased towards or against Nigerian women.
*goes off to find Bond Girls blog*
Great. I am relieved. Living in the states long enough to see the paint dry has jaded me a little. Met a few Nigerian guys who tasted the exoctic and now any woman remotely African is chopped liver. Irksome to say the least.
I also hav nothing against other nationalities and have dated outside my race too. It's a very interesting experience.
NBondG goes to read Scribbles other blogs. ;-)
You must marry...whether you like it or not...you must marry even if she is from afghanistan!!!
Really really like sex but not ddicted??? Ok, my real name is Rev sister Mary!!!
ok, this kinda puts things in perspective.
Does really, really, really liking sex means that you're a sex addict? I'm like you, I can stop if I want to, I don't want to.
Never settle with you on that one too.
And marriage... I don't know if I'll ever get married. Don't care one way or the other I don't think.
am with you with never settling...life is already too short
and leaving all flames behind...they are not good for anyone, they just burn your poor behind over and over again
i can believe u were shy, u seem to be more than making up for that.
2. first kiss at 19 makes two of us. define real tho
3. "I can give it up anytime", said the addict to the bottle of Johnnie Walker...
I dont believe that u can give it up anytime, u wouldnt know that until u try.
4. "O je bi" (u for no celibate...lol) u werent even supposed to know about sex at that age!
5. I think the question really is, how long did u date the virgin and the celibate for? or how long did the sexless relationships last for?
6... well... well..
7.lol, the irony of life eh?
8. awwwwwww, now u are gonna make me cry!
9. I strongly concur!
10. that must be based only on ur dating history, cuz I am 100% nigerian and i speak at least three languages, one fluently, and the others i intend to perfect.
my kids are def speaking at least 2 languages (foreign of course)
11. That is so awesome! u say the sweetest things from time to time dude.
12. SMF, weisst du, ich versuche die 100 sachen ueber mich zu schreiben!
meaning, I am still thinking about the 100 things post, i guess it will be 2-in-1 then.
why are you looking for me when i'm right here babe?lol. but that 5 yr plan of yours has gots to go though.
Bond Girl
dating within or outside my race/culture is all the same to me. I never fully imbibed my cultural practices and I constantly try to expose myself to that of others, my end game is to be culturally balanced.
Afro
I dont mind if she's from Afghanistan. If we work, then it's fine. And I AM NOT ADDICTED!
bumight
how so?
Sexkitten
Thank you o! help me tell em
wordmerchant
correct gambian girl...u get me
Smaragd
kai, dont make me call the Lord's name in vain.
-'Real'- I kissed her, she kissed me back, tongues were involved
-See my next post
-Not my fault...i was surrounded by miscreants..i was introduced to porn at age 9.
-the virgin, 6months, the sexless relationships lasted between 2-4months
-?
-nope, just my conviction. Marriage is not a 'must'.
-:)
-thank you
-I did say based on my dating history (not based on my preference).
-what can I say? I'm a nice guy
-Get to it!
Bibi
you meet the measurements? meet me in my BQ...we can talk about the 5yr plan later
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